"Help Meet" Highlights - More misogyny for your day

Read my post "Created to be His Help Meet -- aka: The Book That Makes My Heart Explode" for context.

Here are a few highlights from this lovely text:
* Note: All underline, italics, bold, exclamation marks, etc. are from the author.

“What is God’s perfect will for your life? To be a good help meet” (p.73).

“Adam commenced his rule of the planet before God created Eve to help him in his life’s goals. Adam didn’t need to get Eve’s consent. God gave her to Adam to be HIS helper, not his partner. She was designed to serve, not to be served, to assist, not to veto his decisions” (p.96).

“If women were the inventors they would make minivans” (p.105).

Regarding women “keeping quiet” in the church:
“For a woman to become the channel of spiritual blessings is to put her into a position not suited for her created being. If she is effective as a replacement for her husband’s ineffective leadership, that makes it all the more wrong? For then she is, as the Bible says, usurping authority over the man—usurping glory…usurping honor…usurping control…usurping leadership. That is, she is doing what a man should be doing, and thus is getting the recognition a man should get. It is an inversion of God’s design for males and females” (p.119).

Regarding a letter from a woman whose husband, shortly after they were married, began going to strip clubs and sleeping with prostitutes. She wanted to get a divorce, but then was told not to by a woman at church and believes that it is God’s perfect will for her to stay with him. That author of the book said this:

“I have to confess that as I typed Judy’s letter into my book, I wept. Judy has turned her heart to God, for only God could have done such a work of grace in a woman. She is reverencing a man who does not deserve it, and in so doing she is reverencing God. She is reverencing God by reverencing her husband, not because her husband is a fit representative of Christ, and not because he is a worthy substitute, but because God placed her in subjection to her husband” (p. 127).

“When you married you signed over to become a minister to his needs. Your life’s work is to minister to your husband. Marriage means becoming one flesh. It does not mean being best friends” (p. 165).

“God created man with a regular need for a woman, and God commanded a man’s wife to see to it that his need is met by her!” (p.168)

“Do you love your husband the way he needs loving, the way you were created to love him? If you don’t score high points here, you are providing an opening for your husband to be tempted by other women” (p.169).

“Don’t talk to me about how uncomfortable or painful it is for you. Do you think your body is special and has special needs? Do you know who created you, and do you know he is the same God who expects you to freely give sex to your husband? Stop the excuses! Determine to find a way past your ‘excuses,’ and provide the pleasure that your husband wants only from you. Your Creator knows your heart. When you truly love and reverence your husband, the very thought of him loving the likes of you should thrill your soul and make you long to give him pleasure. If your heart is right with God, you will focus on his needs and lay aside your own selfish, prudish attitude” (p.170).

“Traits of a Good Help Meet: […] She empties her mind of the cares of the world so her body can respond to him with eagerness. […] Traits of a Wife Who is in Danger of Blaspheming the Word of God: […] Excuses her lack of wanting to gratify him sexually on the grounds that _______. (You fill in the blank. The “Excuses List” can be very long)” (p.175)


Again, here are a few related websites:

This is a blog that refutes most of what this book claims, comparing it to the Bible: http://createdtobehelpmeet.blogspot.com/

This is the book's website: http://www.createdtobehishelpmeet.org/

Excerpts: http://www.createdtobehishelpmeet.org/excerpts